So it has been three weeks since the D&C. Everything went fine with the procedure. No complications, no heavy bleeding also. It lasted about a week. I do believe that my body is getting back to normal and feel that I ovulated and I am getting pre-menstrual cramps since this morning. So I am just waiting for AF to arrive.
First cycle since April.............. since that nightmare of a month and a half.
I went to my follow-up appointment on Monday and I am very disappointed with the ob/gyn. There are a few things that left a sour taste in my mouth the past few years. This past non-successful pregnancy has been tough and that ob/gyn practice has not met my personal standards. This past Monday was the breaking point though. Starting next week, I will be looking for a new practice. I need to find doctors that understand BT a bit more (I know it will be difficult but I am sure I can find someone who understands it or at least is a bit more sensitive to my delicate situation). The doctor did not even ask to check my levels (first time in 6 m/c's), he only did a quick internal exam. He also told me to stop trying to get pregnant on my own. Wow.... I know it's hard but it can happen. Unfortunately I do not have the resources to do IVF or Donor Eggs. My insurance does not cover it. He told me to just go straight to donor eggs and gave me the name of a reproductive clinic with some great specialists. I told him that we did not consider it at this time. I also quickly explained that over the years I had to come to terms with the donor eggs idea. Although I am totally open to this option now, when I first m/c at the age of 25, I had a hard time with thinking about donor eggs. It took time to understand but if I could do donor eggs, I would so do it! (I want to thank LisainSK for reinforcing this idea). I told the doctor that it took me a long time coming to terms with the fact that it would be my husband genetics and not mine. What made me so mad (this is why I am done with them) is that the doctor did not even look at me in the eyes and was writing something on my chart and responded without any regards to my feelings: "well..... it's better than nothing." He then said take care and left the room. Wow.... really?! It is time for a new ob/gyn. If anyone knows a good doctor in the Tampa Bay area, please let me know. A mom from the studio gave me a name and I am going to call and see.
Other than that, I am almost done with the crazy schedule of three weeks of dance camps (9am-5pm) followed by summer classes (6pm-9pm). I miss my zumba classes and I am starting again on Monday!!! Yay!!!
I am looking forward to going back to my normal routine.
Glad to hear you're holding on. It sounds like you have a horrible obgyn. Though--I also had the "your only option is donor eggs" discussion with a few specialists as well. You might want to check out cny in new york (they have a very affordable split cycle of ~$8,000---well affordable compared to the $30k my REs office charges). They also have a payment plan. I'm thinking of using them if our next cycle fails. Otherwise, hoping your zumba, dancing, etc is helping you to heal and feel better. Glad to see you blogging again.
ReplyDeletethirstiesgirl, thank you for the tip. I will definitely check it out. Roughly ~$10,000 could be an option at some point in time for us with the help of family and some savings but we would only have one shot :( We would not be able to afford it twice if it failed. But I appreciate you telling me about it. Crossing my fingers for you, always! I am glad to be back.
ReplyDeleteWow...seriously seriously time for a new OB/GYN. And it takes a long, long time to come to grips with DE for some. The issue of genetics grips ALL of us so strong and sorry that your OB/GYN just doesn't get it. Luckily you have bloggers out there that do. I will also post the name of an affordable US based DE clinic/program to check out if DE is something you are seriously considering. I'll post it separately.
ReplyDeletehttp://ivf.ca/forums/topic/24354-seriouslyan-affordable-us-de-clinic/page__p__335137#entry335137
ReplyDeleteI might post this a few times to see if it worked...
Yes, it works. Cut and paste the link above and then click on the hyperlink I have posted on the forum post that I started. Its online IVF.ca. Anyway, for $!6,500 (meds and donor compensation included) they include a LIVE BABY guarantee. That's incredible. If after I believe 6 attempts (all included in the same price) and no baby, you get all your money back. All the eggs are vitrified and only one egg at a time is thawed and fertilized with DH's sperm and the resulting embie transfered to you. Knowing how much moola we spent at CCRM, I would have DEFINITELY checked out this interesting program based out of Atlanta. Take care...I know this option may be long time down the road until you save up enough OR you are blessed with a miracle pg with a healthy baby (Tarrah of We HAve Angel Wings did it!!). But you've got more options than you think...of course still not cheap but potentially affordable in the world of IVF. Hugs...and yeah, get a new OB/GYN.
ReplyDeleteOh Lisa, thank you so much for the support! And thanks for sharing this with me, I will definitely check this out as well this weekend. I have considered donor eggs lately but it might be a bit more down the road. DH and I are uncertain at this point, but our last heartache is so fresh, it will take time.
ReplyDeleteI just want to say how grateful I am to have found wonderful people like you in the blogging world. It has made life so much easier, I felt so alone for so long but not anymore. Even though this last pregnancy ended badly, I have a different outlook on life and feel much better. My DH also noticed the change in me and we are both so much happier.
Once again, thanks for all the support my blogging family has provided for me!